I love how when Anne leaves comments she often starts with Hi Guys! I don’t know if she is talking to the Mister and I or Moira and I or all three of us. I’m only answering for myself.
Anne asked two questions:
1. If you could have any mentor, approved who would it be and why?
Ooo… tough one! These days if I had to pick a mentor it would be a writing mentor and one who had children so she could teach me how to make it all work: family and writing. Carol Shields didn’t start writing until she was in her 40s and had to write early in the morning and late at night so I would pick her if she weren’t dead. I love the idea of having a mentor and always wished I had one in previous jobs (in fact a friend and I have often discusses how much we would like a mentor and how few people seem to be willing to act in that capacity these days – at least in our experience).
Uh… writer? I guess it is good news that I am trying to do what I dream of doing. Sometimes I miss performing but I don’t miss the bulls$%t that comes with being an actress and constantly trying to sell yourself and having to deal with other actors and their insecurities. I guess if I could pick ANY profession it would be Artist in the general term: I would like to be able to spend my days painting and drawing and writing and creating things with the occasional acting gig thrown in to keep me on my toes. I can’t draw very well but in the world of make believe I am a fantastic visual artist! While I’m dreaming I would like to get paid for all of this work too. I know right – getting paid? That in itself is a dream these days.
Rachel asked: What was your favorite pregnancy book?
To which I wrote her back immediately and said: YAY! but now I will answer the question. Without a doubt it was Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Childbirth. The first part of it goes through all the details about pregnancy and birth and the second part are stories of women who gave birth at with midwives – stories about happy, healthy labours without the usual scare tactics the media throws at us. It made me feel less scared about approaching labour with the intent to keep away from the drugs (to clarify – I have a super sensitive system and so things like anesthesia take a really long time to wear off on me and make me ill, which was proven when I had Moira via c-section and took an extra 24 hours to be able to stand up where as friends of mine who had c-sections were up and about feeling fine in a much shorter time period). I think it is a very empowering book to read even if you want to have all the drugs in the world. Not that it was asked but I have to say I hated What To Expect When You Are Expecting – too damn long and too many improbable “what if” scenarios like “what if my baby is born with two heads and has to have one removed”. Okay, I obviously made that up but it was probably in there somewhere.
Jen asked: What’s the worst piece of parenting advice you’ve received?
I can’t think of a really bad piece of advice (I’ve probably blocked them out). As a new parent you tend to get advice from everyone and not everything is going to work so you discard that advice and move on (or make yourself crazy – it’s all about self preservation). That being said the most ANNOYING piece of advice I was constantly given was: Sleep when the baby sleeps. I mean, I know people mean well but the reality is that this is much harder than it sounds. We already know about my little non-napper but even when she does have a short nap it is my chance to go to the bathroom, brush my teeth, shove some food into my starving body, write a blog entry or – usually – sit on the couch and anxiously fret about how long I am going to get to myself (thus wasting precious time).